You can’t blame where you’ve been on where you’re going… the two are inherrently unrelated.
…Okay so that may not be completely true in all circumstances but for the most of us it is. I know a lot of people who have come from underprivelege backgrounds and have had the strength and determination to put the past behind them, move onwards and upwards with their lives and have grown to be extremely successful. Look at all the rags to riches stories we hear everyday in the media. Not everyone was born with a silver spoon in their mouth and a satin diaper on their tush yet everyone has the POTENTIAL to accomplish and achieve great things.
I also know (a bit too close to home unfortunately) a lot of people who blame their circumstances on why they can’t make it in life. On why they don’t have a job or any money, or a relationship or good friends. The lack of money in the past is no excuse for a lack of money in the future. The two are set apart from eacother by time and so it is the time between them enables you to make the change from one to the other.
No matter how bad your upbringing was: abusive relationships- parents, patrners, dangerous neighbour, involved with the wrong crowd, drugs, illness, disability, sex, teen pregnancy, violence… there is absolutely NO excuse for not doing well in life. There are two ways to deal with these things : 1) let them tear apart and burden your soul, oppressing you through life and holding you back like an anchor to the titanic (spells disaster to me) or 2) rise above it, use it as fuel to stregthen your resolve so that one day you can use those bad experiences as evidence of how far you’ve travelled and how your own passion and determination have lifted you to success. Not everyone is successful in life but it is not because not everyone can be it is because not everyone knows how to. Most of us are taught to Strive to
Survive rather that to Thrive it is up to you to take matters into your own hands. Daily we are presented with opportunities in life and it is up to us what we do with them. It is not acceptable to wallow in self pity for the child that we were or the person that we are now. If you do not like who you are then by all means change! It is time to stop being lazy stop being scared leave the past in the past and accomplish what you are truly capable of.
NB: by successful i do not mean a rock/movie star success is subjective.. only you yourself can know when you are truly successful it is a measurement derived by your own beliefs and sentiments.