Say what you see .. “There is a fine line between Love and lust”…
Contrary to what my tumblr name suggest the big L is not a word I just throw about and exchange like oxygen for carbon dioxide.. The reasons being:
- it is easy to THINK you’re in love whilst not being in it
- It is easy to be in (a state that resembles) love when you should NOT be
- It is easy to mistake Love for Lust
- Thinking your in Love can be a dangerous mindset
e.t.c… x2 but the basic idea im trying to encompass here is that Love is Not as simple nor as complex as people think it is.
Infatuation = Loves impostor
BE WARY: Infatuation has disguised itself as love and gotten away with it many times.
You may be very interested in someone, have a very passionate relationship; always thinking about them, missing them, can’t keep your hands off them when they’re around,
Love Infatuation is like a drug which literally has physiological effects.. increased heart rate, addiction, euphoria so in the absence of the subject of infatuation, one finds it as harder to achieve enjoyment/pleasure, (NB: this is extremely similar to the effects of cocaine) as invigorating as this all sounds these feelings are extremely common whereas love is a lot rarer.. Love is in fact what is left when all this chemistry exits stage right but you still want to be with that person. After all the fireworks, everything is quiet yet you’re not bored you’re quite happy to just stare at the sky. I’m not even implying that love is boring, I’m not suggesting that I’ve been in love and know all about it, but I recognise the look and it’s not a “I can’t wait to rip your clothes off”-look it’s more of a “I want to make you happy at any cost because you mean more to me than anything”-look.
Now we’re all only human (¬_¬ a phrase that i will cover in detail in a blogpost coming soon) … and are entitled to make mistakes HOWEVER it can’t be called love if both parties rnt puttin in maximum effort…
Im not usually a bible quoter but a lot of you probably know 1 Corinthians 13 has some powerful words on love:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails…
- Love is not a matter of the mind nor the heart but the SOUL
- Love is mutual
- Love is only real when its healthy for you
There are many feelings that look like love, dress like love, sound like love but in actually fact they are not as genuine or as authenic and unfortunately its extremely difficult distinguish between them.
And believe it or not its only just after i finished writting this that i realised valentine’s day is around the corner lol (this calls for another blogpost!! hehee)
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